I used to walk in a wooded trail system with lots of coyotes.
When coyotes were around, people were (understandably) nervous. On occasion, people were chased to their cars.
Folks didn’t realize that running away is the worst thing you can do when a member of the canine family is chasing (dogs are the same).
Running away triggers a coyote’s prey drive.
When my dog and I eventually caught the interest of a coyote, I knew what to do (because, google!) I leashed my dog, started hissing loudly, and made myself bigger by stretching my arms above my head.
I stopped and looked it in the eye.
It’s the same with the ghosts of our past. When people, memories, or events from our past come knocking, there’s only one thing to do:
Stop and look it in the eye.
The hungry ghosts from our past are kinda like coyotes. They don’t want trouble. They’re not intruders—they’re on our timeline for a reason.
When we feed them (give history a moment of our attention) it honours the past.
They settle down. They turn from hungry, to friendly.
Sometimes we might want to run and scream—yikes, get away from me! Or eat, smoke, drink, zone out on media, caffeinate, or medicate our feelings. Or we pretend the past never happened.
We don’t realize the ghosts are only hungry and scary when we run.
After you watch the video, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Have you noticed more visits from the past (pleasant or unpleasant)?
Let’s chat, in the comments below.