I’m sending a big hug to you on this fine day—I hope you can feel it.
We all need hugs right now.
Not the “tap you politely on the back” kind.
Not the “this is awkward because we’re not lovers” kind.
Not the anxious “Did I put deodorant on?” “Did I eat garlic?” or “Does this person do that kiss thing at the end?” kind.
We need honest connection—and deodorant.
When we’re overwhelmed it’s easy to forget to connect, even though it’s one of the tried and true cures for stress.
I love the “spiritual community,” (whatever that means) but what good is being able to meditate for hours, stand on our heads, run a marathon and drink green juice wearing fancy mala beads—if we can’t connect?
A spiritual practice means nothing if we can’t connect.
I notice it in myself too when I’m rushed, stressed, or preoccupied. I get focused on my own agenda and forget about my other humans. This world needs us to see all our brothers and sisters—not just the humans we love and live with.
With so many changes going on all over the planet, now more than ever, we need each other.
Not a hugger? No problem.
Here Are Five Simple Ways to Connect that Don’t Involve Hugging:
1. Ask the school secretary if you can grab her a coffee. She greets every person walking through the door. She wipes snotty noses, balances the books, collects attendance and hands out band-aids. She listens to school bells clanging all day. Sometimes people yell at her. Make her the most important person you’ve ever met, for 2-5 minutes.
2. Smile at the grocery clerk and ask how his day is going. Listen for the answer. (1-3 minutes.)
3. Smile at a homeless person and say “hey, I hope something amazing happens to you today!” Say it like you mean it. (30 seconds.) I spent a year working with homeless people—they’re just like us.
4. Stop to talk to the old lady walking down the street. Ask her what makes her smile. Ask her what her life motto is. (5 minutes)
5. Got plenty? Give your neighbour muffins, apples, grapes, a pie, or freshly baked bread (preferably sprouted, gluten-free, local, fair-trade, grass-fed bread). Wait, don’t do this with your favourite neighbour—you connect with her all the time—give it to the quiet one you don’t know very well.
Whatever you do, the key is to connect without expecting anything back.
Smile at strangers, knowing they might think you’re weird. Give the bread to the neighbour, knowing there’s a chance she’s celiac. Don’t expect her to thank you—she’s shy, remember?
Use your instincts. Do it for your soul, to reduce karmic debt, to feel good, or just to have a story to tell. It doesn’t matter why. Just connect.
Do you do this kind of simple stuff already? Do you love it when people do it to you? If yes, I’d love to hear about it in the comments below. Connect with me too.
I love you guys,
PS: In the Fig Tree Joycast, choose from Soft Grey Suede, Sparkling Emerald Green, or Midnight Moon Black—and get a personalized message. I was so into it that the tide came bubbling up around us and I didn’t even notice! We had to relocate for the Midnight Moon. I’d love to hear if this was helpful.