Tamika Schilbe photoAs a professional counselor with 25 years experience supporting over 1000 individuals, families and groups, it is my pleasure and privilege to support you on your journey.

This is my personal site, but I’m on Faculty at the University of the Fraser Valley in BC, and the the Co-Founder of DevaTree School of Yoga Canada. When I began incorporating Eastern philosophies into my Western approach to psychotherapy, clients started getting better faster. Yogis practice for many different reasons. For me, yoga has little to do with getting bendy and everything to do with presence, self-worth, and compassion. In this fast moving world, my meditative practices are an anchor–and they always bring me back to my heart, where the deepest truths live.

My philosophy is that life is better when we speak our truth. Where, when, and how we speak it is different for everyone—because truth can be scary sometimes.

Sometimes dealing with truth-aches goes smoothly, and other times honesty is frightening—or misunderstood by those who don’t want it to be true.

From an early age my inner truth detector sounded its alarm. At age five, my mother was frankly honest with me about my brother’s sudden death—but a few years later when she told me our family dog ran away, I knew something wasn’t right. Still grieving the loss of her son, she couldn’t bring herself to tell me my canine companion was dead. The well-intentioned and pained look on her face filled me with confusion. I knew it wasn’t true, but I totally trusted her. She was not a liar—she was protecting me as well as her own broken heart.

That day taught me how tender and complex truth is. Unbeknownst to me, that experience and others to follow would become the catalyst for the truth archaeology that would inform the clinical work ahead of me. All kinds of secrets would come walking into the room with my clients—sometimes a hidden shame that distracted them, other times a burden so heavy they couldn’t stand up straight. The need to dig into truth seemed painfully obvious.

Speaking our truth is as vital to our health as exercise and nutrition.

Even the most healthy, successful people need support facing difficult truths. People seek out help because dishonesty is hugely distracting and diverts energy away from our goals and dreams. Still, being honest isn’t always simple or easy to do.

In my adult life, honesty has been the way I step forward when I’m stuck. But for as many times as I’ve stepped forward in my truth, I’ve avoided it too. I’ve exaggerated my abilities when I didn’t think I was good enough, or downplayed them to make someone else feel better. And I’ve hurt people close to me by not sharing the full truth of a situation. I’ve discovered that dishonesty is a good teacher too. For me this path is about practice–not perfection. There are always new layers, new discoveries, and even new skills to hone on this path. I am still a student of this process.

Honesty takes great courage and dedication. To practice skillfully, it also requires compassion for all involved.

One thing I know for sure—the world needs your heartfelt truth. I’m here to help you share it.

I live in British Columbia, Canada, where my dog takes me for walks and reminds me to smell the roses—and whatever else is on the road. I love trees, community, traveling, writing, children, honesty, silly jokes, random acts of kindness, hiking at sunrise, deep listeners, and the feeling of being trusted.

I’d love for you to come on this journey with me by subscribing to my newsletter. I’ll only write when I have something valuable to share. Or come on hikes with me via Instagram—nature is so unapologetically honest. I enjoy reading your comments and communicating back whenever possible.

Until Soon,